Working harder. Spending money on every book, seminar, and coach I could find. Watching the debt grow anyway. I didn't need another strategy — I needed to see the programming that was sabotaging every strategy I tried.
I was doing everything the experts said. Working harder. Hustling more. Buying every program, attending every seminar, hiring every coach who promised to have the answer. And somehow the debt just kept growing.
The money problem wasn't a money problem. The marriage problem wasn't a marriage problem. They were all symptoms of something deeper — programming I didn't even know was running.
I had internalized lies so long ago that I didn't recognize them as lies anymore. I thought they were just facts about who I was. And my brain's filtering system — the RAS — kept confirming those lies while blocking everything that didn't match.
Once I saw the programming, I could change it. Once I changed it, everything else followed.
I took computers in Vo-Tech and graduated in 1976 with a D average. Not because I couldn't do the work — because nobody ever pushed me to try. My computer teacher gave me a C my senior year. When I asked why, he said, "You could have tried harder."
But even then, I was already wondering: What makes some people push through and others give up? What's the difference between people who build the life they want and people who keep sabotaging themselves? What was missing in me — and how could I fix it?
That question became a 52-year obsession. And the answer turned out to be simpler than I expected: People don't realize they're living in past programming.
Left high school with a D average and a burning question: what makes people self-sabotage?
Started attending events and fell in love with the work. 11 years of solid training that didn't feel like training — it felt like finally finding answers to questions I'd been asking since I was 16.
Applied what I was learning. Paid off over $630,000 in debt in five years. Started working for the company in sales, then Sales Manager, Director of Sales & Client Care, then Director of Coaching.
Covid slammed the company. Dani retired. But as I kept coaching and mentoring people through it all, I realized something had shifted in me — my mind was clear. The nagging lies that had run my life for decades were gone.
Developed 8 assessment tools based on working with real clients. Created a system that identifies the specific programming running people's lives — the same programming I'd finally broken free from myself.
The flood that devastated my town almost took me with it. Surviving changed my sense of urgency about this work.
She died suddenly. Gloria was the model of unconditional love that I now pass forward to everyone I work with.
Building a community and training leaders to do this work. The mission: see people into their full potential, then train others to do the same.
My grandmother Vera was abandoned by her husband with five children to raise alone. She worked to support them all. She had every reason to become bitter — but she chose love.
My mother Gloria carried that forward. She was purely other-centered, grateful, and loved her Jesus. She gave me a model of what unconditional love looks like. Not everyone gets that.
Now it's my turn. I take what I received and pass it forward to people who never got it. Single moms with no support system. Leaders making $50–100k who keep sabotaging themselves. People who've been told their whole lives that they're too much, not enough, or broken beyond repair.
They're not broken. They're programmed. And programming can be changed.
I don't use clinical jargon. I don't diagnose disorders or talk about "trauma responses." I call it what it is: self-sabotage programming. Lies you've internalized. Patterns running on autopilot.
My 8 assessments are designed to surface the specific programming that's blocking you — not generic personality quizzes, but tools that show you exactly where the lies took root and what they're costing you.
Then we do the real work: replace the lies with truth. Build self-efficacy with evidence. Create a new baseline that doesn't require constant fighting to maintain.
This isn't quick-fix stuff. The clients who've transformed their lives stuck with the work for years. Real change takes time. But it's permanent change — not another temporary high that fades in three weeks.